Written by: Rob Aurelius, Founding Publisher
Dear Rob,
You made it.
Thirty-nine years.
Thirty-nine years of love, loss, heartbreak, growth, mistakes, triumph, pain, healing, laughter — and above all, resilience.
Pause for a moment.
Breathe that in.
Don’t rush past it; don’t skip to the next podcast episode, the next article, the next project, the next heartbreak or breakthrough.
Stop.
Stand still.
Look at yourself. Because you have come so far.
You were born in May — #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth — and maybe, just maybe, the universe placed you here on purpose. You’ve carried the weight of mental health struggles not just as an advocate, but as someone who has lived them deeply.
You know the darkness of depression, the ache of loneliness, the sting of rejection, the scars of heartbreak, the heavy pressure of expectation. And yet, here you are:
Still standing.
Still resilient.
Still believing — in love, in purpose, in healing, in the power of helping others.
This birthday, you chose simplicity. A quiet photo shoot. No crowds, no spectacle, no performance. And for once, you felt good — genuinely good. Not because everything in your life is perfect, but because you finally realized: you are enough, just as you are.
Yes, two weeks ago were bittersweet. Ashlei graduated from the Philadelphia Police Academy. You weren’t there — and yes, that hurt. But you honored her journey from afar. You chose love over bitterness, pride over resentment. You allowed yourself to cheer for her, even in silence.
That, Rob, is resilience.
That is grace.
That is growth.
You’ve poured your heart into The Resilient Podcast, into The Resilience Tribune, into every word you write and every story you share. Whether the world claps for you or not, whether you get recognition or stand quietly in the background, you keep going.
And that, Rob, is one of the greatest things you have ever accomplished. You turned your deepest heartbreak into one of your greatest triumphs — building platforms for healing, storytelling, and hope.
But here’s the most important part — listen carefully.
You must love yourself.
You must care for yourself.
You must rest when you’re tired, set boundaries when you’re drained, and remember: that no one else will take care of your heart the way you can.
You can’t keep pouring everything into others and leaving yourself empty.
You can’t measure your worth solely by what you produce, who you help, or how strong you appear on the outside.
You are worthy — simply because you exist.
At 39, you are no longer the man you were last year, or the year before that, or a decade ago.
You are wiser.
You are stronger.
You are a man who knows that resilience isn’t just about surviving — it’s about transforming. It’s about turning your wounds into wisdom, your heartbreak into purpose, and your scars into roadmaps for others.
So, as you walk into this final year of your 30s, promise yourself this:
Promise to honor your mental health every single day, not just during Mental Health Awareness Month.
Promise to forgive yourself for past mistakes, even the ones that still sting.
Promise to love yourself not just when you feel strong, but when you feel small, when you feel broken, and when you feel uncertain.
Promise to embrace the man you are right now, even as you stretch toward the man you want to become.
Promise to hold onto your dreams, your resilience, your light — even when the world feels dark.
Promise to remember that you are not defined by your past, your heartbreak, or your failures — you are defined by the way you rise, the way you love, and the way you keep showing up.
You are your own greatest project.
You are your own greatest love story.
And you are your own greatest resilience.
So here’s to you, Rob Aurelius:
Here’s to the man who has survived, transformed, and risen.
Here’s to the man who knows that his journey is far from over.
Here’s to the man who dares to love himself, even when it’s hard.
I am proud of you.
I love you.
And I believe — deeply, fully — in the man you are becoming.
With the deepest love,
Yourself 🙏💝
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